New life 🏳️‍🌈 new account ➡️ @thenew New life 🏳️‍🌈 new account ➡️ @thenewlolgbtq - follow for my next chapter 

Four years ago, I was married to a man, killing myself to try to grow a semi-successful mom blog, and starving my body in an attempt to keep it all together. I told myself — and anyone who would listen — that I was living my best life. I was happy.

I was lying.

Today, I’m divorced from that man, remarried to my best friend, navigating what it’s like to come out in your 40s after a lifetime of being “straight”, softer and saggier and at least 30 pounds heavier … and finally ready to talk about it all. 

When I divorced the father of my children and then fell in love with a woman, I went dark on Instagram. I stopped blogging. I had nothing to say. 

And then, last weekend — our first @brandicarlilesmothershipwkd. 🌈 And the weekend’s @sadfriendssocialclub vulnerability workshop. ❤️‍🔥 I discovered I’m ready again.

Mothership was like coming home. For the first time in a long time, I felt completely free to be me. With my wife. Unafraid and unashamed.

I’m not lying anymore. To myself or my audience. 

I still don’t always know where we belong. We’re the token queer couple in a sea of straight friends. We still “pass” as straight even in the LGBTQ community. We’re finding our way one day at a time. 

This is #theNewLOLgbtq — figuring out life as a late-onset lesbian. But I know this: whoever you are, whomever you love, you belong here. ❣️

 #thenewLOL #thenewlolgbtq #queermoms #queerfam #twomoms #newtolgbtq #lateonsetlesbians #latetolesbian #lesbianmoms #ipreview
When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was wearing black to show my dissent on Roe v. Wade. 🖤 As we were leaving our local 4th of July parade, the world got darker. We heard about another parade in another Chicago suburb. Highland Park - just an hour north. The scene of yet another mass shooting. 💔

For so many reasons, this one hits too close to home. What if it had been us? What if it had been Wheaton? Could we protect our kids? Could their little legs run fast enough? Would our family get separated in the chaos? Would we all make it out unhurt? Why? WHY? Why does every parent have to consider these possibilities? And WHY do we keep letting this happen?

On the 4th of July, we had to talk to our 9-year-old, 8-year-old and 6-year-old about mass shootings. Because they happen so often now, we need the kids to know. We don’t want them to be perpetually afraid — but we need them to be prepared. 

Now when I look at this picture, I hear their questions in my head. Did people die? In real life? Kids like me? I hear Easton, the 9-year-old, matter-of-factly explaining to his brothers how to hide on a toilet seat in a bathroom stall so you can’t be seen. I hear the steel edge in my own voice when I tell them that if it ever happens at their school, to stay quiet and do EXACTLY what their teachers say.

“Could this happen at our school?”

“Could this happen tomorrow at summer camp?”

“Mommy … this could happen anywhere, couldn’t it?”

I can’t lie to them. I won’t. The stakes are too high. And yet, it’s hard to get out the words to confirm their nightmares — to confirm every parent’s own nightmare.

It could. And we need to fight until it can’t.

Follow my new account @kate.writes.real.life for more like this ❤️‍🔥

#momsdemandaction #marchforourlives #enoughisenough #protectkidsnotguns #guncontrolnow #4thofjuly #highlandpark #lgbtq #lgbtqfamily #blendedfamily #twomoms
The past year has been filled with so many hard mo The past year has been filled with so many hard moments. Moments that challenged me. Moments that almost broke me.

But then there are the moments when it all comes together and I know exactly why I fought like hell to be here. Moments like these, when my heart could split open with the happiness I’ve found. No, scratch that — with the happiness 𝙬𝙚’𝙫𝙚 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙.

Today and every day, I’m thankful to be right here. ❤️ Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours 🍁 

📸: the oh-so-patient @hbphotography630 

#modernfamily #blendedfamily #buildalifeyoulove #lgbtqfamily #twomoms #familyphotos #familygoals #thanksgiving #lifeafterdivorce
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Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys ages 5-8 to @medievaltimes_chicago for Mother’s Day. You’d think two moms would know how to do ‘our day’ better. 😂 There was some whining, some tears, some beer, and some light-up weapons ... but somehow a lot of fun too. 

Life these days is far from Insta-perfect but it’s mine ❤️
“𝙸 𝚑𝚊𝚝𝚎 𝚊𝚌𝚌𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜 𝚎𝚡𝚌𝚎𝚙𝚝 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚠𝚎 𝚠𝚎𝚗𝚝 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚏𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜...” 
- 𝚝𝚊𝚢𝚕𝚘𝚛 𝚜𝚠𝚒𝚏𝚝

Sometimes a moment changes everything. A kiss. A sunset. A friendship that’s suddenly more. 

a #loveislove story is on the blog tonight 🖤

#thisisus #lovewins #lovestory #samesexrelationship #lgbtq🌈
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Chocolate Chip Brownie Torte: The Ultimate Easy But Impressive Homemade Dessert for Any Celebration
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Chocolate Chip Brownie Torte

The Ultimate Easy but Impressive Dessert for Any Celebration We celebrated my husband’s grandma’s birthday this weekend, and I volunteered to put my baking-as-therapy energy to good use and make dessert for the family celebration. She’s not one for a big fuss about herself (or anything else), but I know she never says no to …

by Kate | #NeverDoneWithFunupdated on October 9, 2018October 9, 2018
Easy Make-It-Yourself Peppa Pig Cupcakes with Store-bought Ingredients and Decorations
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Simple Peppa Pig Cupcakes

As I type this post, the “Peppa Pig” theme song is going through my head on repeat. I *may* have accidentally watched three episodes in a row…by myself…after the kids were in bed. For RESEARCH. The spacing of Peppa’s eyes is tough to get right! (Because, why are both her eyes next to one another …

by Kate | #NeverDoneWithFunupdated on November 23, 2019September 24, 2018
Frosted dog bone cupcake pupcake healthy peanut butter banana muffine
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Not-Just-For-Dogs Healthy Peanut Butter “Pupcakes”

The boys have been obsessed with birthday parties lately. Easton is already planning his 6th birthday … which is at the end of December. Needless to say, that’s not on my radar yet. But our French bulldog, Bruno, celebrated his 5th birthday this week, and Easton wanted to make sure Bruno got a party too. …

by Kate | #NeverDoneWithFunupdated on November 23, 2019July 3, 2018
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LEGO-Duplo Birthday Blast

Basically from the moment I found out Baby #2 was another boy, I started envisioning the possibilities for double birthday parties. My boys are both winter babies, with E born at the end of December and Sawyer born at the beginning of February, so my plan from the get-go was to split the difference and …

by Kate | #NeverDoneWithFunupdated on November 23, 2019June 17, 2018

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New life 🏳️‍🌈 new account ➡️ @thenew New life 🏳️‍🌈 new account ➡️ @thenewlolgbtq - follow for my next chapter 

Four years ago, I was married to a man, killing myself to try to grow a semi-successful mom blog, and starving my body in an attempt to keep it all together. I told myself — and anyone who would listen — that I was living my best life. I was happy.

I was lying.

Today, I’m divorced from that man, remarried to my best friend, navigating what it’s like to come out in your 40s after a lifetime of being “straight”, softer and saggier and at least 30 pounds heavier … and finally ready to talk about it all. 

When I divorced the father of my children and then fell in love with a woman, I went dark on Instagram. I stopped blogging. I had nothing to say. 

And then, last weekend — our first @brandicarlilesmothershipwkd. 🌈 And the weekend’s @sadfriendssocialclub vulnerability workshop. ❤️‍🔥 I discovered I’m ready again.

Mothership was like coming home. For the first time in a long time, I felt completely free to be me. With my wife. Unafraid and unashamed.

I’m not lying anymore. To myself or my audience. 

I still don’t always know where we belong. We’re the token queer couple in a sea of straight friends. We still “pass” as straight even in the LGBTQ community. We’re finding our way one day at a time. 

This is #theNewLOLgbtq — figuring out life as a late-onset lesbian. But I know this: whoever you are, whomever you love, you belong here. ❣️

 #thenewLOL #thenewlolgbtq #queermoms #queerfam #twomoms #newtolgbtq #lateonsetlesbians #latetolesbian #lesbianmoms #ipreview
When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was wearing black to show my dissent on Roe v. Wade. 🖤 As we were leaving our local 4th of July parade, the world got darker. We heard about another parade in another Chicago suburb. Highland Park - just an hour north. The scene of yet another mass shooting. 💔

For so many reasons, this one hits too close to home. What if it had been us? What if it had been Wheaton? Could we protect our kids? Could their little legs run fast enough? Would our family get separated in the chaos? Would we all make it out unhurt? Why? WHY? Why does every parent have to consider these possibilities? And WHY do we keep letting this happen?

On the 4th of July, we had to talk to our 9-year-old, 8-year-old and 6-year-old about mass shootings. Because they happen so often now, we need the kids to know. We don’t want them to be perpetually afraid — but we need them to be prepared. 

Now when I look at this picture, I hear their questions in my head. Did people die? In real life? Kids like me? I hear Easton, the 9-year-old, matter-of-factly explaining to his brothers how to hide on a toilet seat in a bathroom stall so you can’t be seen. I hear the steel edge in my own voice when I tell them that if it ever happens at their school, to stay quiet and do EXACTLY what their teachers say.

“Could this happen at our school?”

“Could this happen tomorrow at summer camp?”

“Mommy … this could happen anywhere, couldn’t it?”

I can’t lie to them. I won’t. The stakes are too high. And yet, it’s hard to get out the words to confirm their nightmares — to confirm every parent’s own nightmare.

It could. And we need to fight until it can’t.

Follow my new account @kate.writes.real.life for more like this ❤️‍🔥

#momsdemandaction #marchforourlives #enoughisenough #protectkidsnotguns #guncontrolnow #4thofjuly #highlandpark #lgbtq #lgbtqfamily #blendedfamily #twomoms
The past year has been filled with so many hard mo The past year has been filled with so many hard moments. Moments that challenged me. Moments that almost broke me.

But then there are the moments when it all comes together and I know exactly why I fought like hell to be here. Moments like these, when my heart could split open with the happiness I’ve found. No, scratch that — with the happiness 𝙬𝙚’𝙫𝙚 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙.

Today and every day, I’m thankful to be right here. ❤️ Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours 🍁 

📸: the oh-so-patient @hbphotography630 

#modernfamily #blendedfamily #buildalifeyoulove #lgbtqfamily #twomoms #familyphotos #familygoals #thanksgiving #lifeafterdivorce
Partners ❤️🔎🕵🏻‍♀️🕵🏻‍♀ Partners ❤️🔎🕵🏻‍♀️🕵🏻‍♀️
Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys ages 5-8 to @medievaltimes_chicago for Mother’s Day. You’d think two moms would know how to do ‘our day’ better. 😂 There was some whining, some tears, some beer, and some light-up weapons ... but somehow a lot of fun too. 

Life these days is far from Insta-perfect but it’s mine ❤️
“𝙸 𝚑𝚊𝚝𝚎 𝚊𝚌𝚌𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜 𝚎𝚡𝚌𝚎𝚙𝚝 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚠𝚎 𝚠𝚎𝚗𝚝 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚏𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜...” 
- 𝚝𝚊𝚢𝚕𝚘𝚛 𝚜𝚠𝚒𝚏𝚝

Sometimes a moment changes everything. A kiss. A sunset. A friendship that’s suddenly more. 

a #loveislove story is on the blog tonight 🖤

#thisisus #lovewins #lovestory #samesexrelationship #lgbtq🌈
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