New life πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ new account ➑️ @thenew New life πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ new account ➑️ @thenewlolgbtq - follow for my next chapter 

Four years ago, I was married to a man, killing myself to try to grow a semi-successful mom blog, and starving my body in an attempt to keep it all together. I told myself β€” and anyone who would listen β€” that I was living my best life. I was happy.

I was lying.

Today, I’m divorced from that man, remarried to my best friend, navigating what it’s like to come out in your 40s after a lifetime of being β€œstraight”, softer and saggier and at least 30 pounds heavier … and finally ready to talk about it all. 

When I divorced the father of my children and then fell in love with a woman, I went dark on Instagram. I stopped blogging. I had nothing to say. 

And then, last weekend β€” our first @brandicarlilesmothershipwkd. 🌈 And the weekend’s @sadfriendssocialclub vulnerability workshop. ❀️‍πŸ”₯ I discovered I’m ready again.

Mothership was like coming home. For the first time in a long time, I felt completely free to be me. With my wife. Unafraid and unashamed.

I’m not lying anymore. To myself or my audience. 

I still don’t always know where we belong. We’re the token queer couple in a sea of straight friends. We still β€œpass” as straight even in the LGBTQ community. We’re finding our way one day at a time. 

This is #theNewLOLgbtq β€” figuring out life as a late-onset lesbian. But I know this: whoever you are, whomever you love, you belong here. ❣️

 #thenewLOL #thenewlolgbtq #queermoms #queerfam #twomoms #newtolgbtq #lateonsetlesbians #latetolesbian #lesbianmoms #ipreview
When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was wearing black to show my dissent on Roe v. Wade. πŸ–€ As we were leaving our local 4th of July parade, the world got darker. We heard about another parade in another Chicago suburb. Highland Park - just an hour north. The scene of yet another mass shooting. πŸ’”

For so many reasons, this one hits too close to home. What if it had been us? What if it had been Wheaton? Could we protect our kids? Could their little legs run fast enough? Would our family get separated in the chaos? Would we all make it out unhurt? Why? WHY? Why does every parent have to consider these possibilities? And WHY do we keep letting this happen?

On the 4th of July, we had to talk to our 9-year-old, 8-year-old and 6-year-old about mass shootings. Because they happen so often now, we need the kids to know. We don’t want them to be perpetually afraid β€” but we need them to be prepared. 

Now when I look at this picture, I hear their questions in my head. Did people die? In real life? Kids like me? I hear Easton, the 9-year-old, matter-of-factly explaining to his brothers how to hide on a toilet seat in a bathroom stall so you can’t be seen. I hear the steel edge in my own voice when I tell them that if it ever happens at their school, to stay quiet and do EXACTLY what their teachers say.

β€œCould this happen at our school?”

β€œCould this happen tomorrow at summer camp?”

β€œMommy … this could happen anywhere, couldn’t it?”

I can’t lie to them. I won’t. The stakes are too high. And yet, it’s hard to get out the words to confirm their nightmares β€” to confirm every parent’s own nightmare.

It could. And we need to fight until it can’t.

Follow my new account @kate.writes.real.life for more like this ❀️‍πŸ”₯

#momsdemandaction #marchforourlives #enoughisenough #protectkidsnotguns #guncontrolnow #4thofjuly #highlandpark #lgbtq #lgbtqfamily #blendedfamily #twomoms
The past year has been filled with so many hard mo The past year has been filled with so many hard moments. Moments that challenged me. Moments that almost broke me.

But then there are the moments when it all comes together and I know exactly why I fought like hell to be here. Moments like these, when my heart could split open with the happiness I’ve found. No, scratch that β€” with the happiness π™¬π™šβ€™π™«π™š π™˜π™§π™šπ™–π™©π™šπ™™.

Today and every day, I’m thankful to be right here. ❀️ Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours 🍁 

πŸ“Έ: the oh-so-patient @hbphotography630 

#modernfamily #blendedfamily #buildalifeyoulove #lgbtqfamily #twomoms #familyphotos #familygoals #thanksgiving #lifeafterdivorce
Partners β€οΈπŸ”ŽπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€ Partners β€οΈπŸ”ŽπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€οΈ
Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys ages 5-8 to @medievaltimes_chicago for Mother’s Day. You’d think two moms would know how to do β€˜our day’ better. πŸ˜‚ There was some whining, some tears, some beer, and some light-up weapons ... but somehow a lot of fun too. 

Life these days is far from Insta-perfect but it’s mine ❀️
β€œπ™Έ πš‘πšŠπšπšŽ πšŠπšŒπšŒπš’πšπšŽπš—πšπšœ πšŽπš‘πšŒπšŽπš™πš πš πš‘πšŽπš— 𝚠𝚎 πš πšŽπš—πš πšπš›πš˜πš– πšπš›πš’πšŽπš—πšπšœ 𝚝𝚘 πšπš‘πš’πšœ...” 
- πšπšŠπš’πš•πš˜πš› πšœπš πš’πšπš

Sometimes a moment changes everything. A kiss. A sunset. A friendship that’s suddenly more. 

a #loveislove story is on the blog tonight πŸ–€

#thisisus #lovewins #lovestory #samesexrelationship #lgbtq🌈
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When This Is Over: Navigating the New Reality

How to Move From β€œSurvive” to β€œThrive” In the Wake of the Pandemic How many times have you said it over the past weeks? β€œWhen this is over…” I’m guilty. I’ve said it a hundred times. I’ve thought it thousands. It’s the security blanket of these unprecedented times. Maybe it’s a prayer we whisper before …

by Kate | #NeverDoneWithFunupdated on May 10, 2020May 10, 2020
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Quarantine-Friendly Family Field Trips

Forest Preserves Are Still Open and They’re Saving Our Sanity If you’ve been following awhile, you know I usually publish my Family Field Trip series posts on Friday, to give you ideas for the weekend ahead. But in COVID reality, the weekends just bleed into the weekdays and back again. Is a Saturday all that …

by Kate | #NeverDoneWithFunupdated on May 4, 2020May 4, 2020
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Work From Home With Kids: A Survival Guide

In the age of COVID-19, working parents have abruptly been thrust into a whole new world. Our schools and our daycares β€” our lifelines β€” are closed. We’re suddenly faced with the challenges of balancing work life and home life on an entirely new plane: one in which the two have collided in the most …

by Kate | #NeverDoneWithFunupdated on March 22, 2020March 22, 2020

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New life πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ new account ➑️ @thenew New life πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ new account ➑️ @thenewlolgbtq - follow for my next chapter 

Four years ago, I was married to a man, killing myself to try to grow a semi-successful mom blog, and starving my body in an attempt to keep it all together. I told myself β€” and anyone who would listen β€” that I was living my best life. I was happy.

I was lying.

Today, I’m divorced from that man, remarried to my best friend, navigating what it’s like to come out in your 40s after a lifetime of being β€œstraight”, softer and saggier and at least 30 pounds heavier … and finally ready to talk about it all. 

When I divorced the father of my children and then fell in love with a woman, I went dark on Instagram. I stopped blogging. I had nothing to say. 

And then, last weekend β€” our first @brandicarlilesmothershipwkd. 🌈 And the weekend’s @sadfriendssocialclub vulnerability workshop. ❀️‍πŸ”₯ I discovered I’m ready again.

Mothership was like coming home. For the first time in a long time, I felt completely free to be me. With my wife. Unafraid and unashamed.

I’m not lying anymore. To myself or my audience. 

I still don’t always know where we belong. We’re the token queer couple in a sea of straight friends. We still β€œpass” as straight even in the LGBTQ community. We’re finding our way one day at a time. 

This is #theNewLOLgbtq β€” figuring out life as a late-onset lesbian. But I know this: whoever you are, whomever you love, you belong here. ❣️

 #thenewLOL #thenewlolgbtq #queermoms #queerfam #twomoms #newtolgbtq #lateonsetlesbians #latetolesbian #lesbianmoms #ipreview
When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was When we took this picture yesterday morning, I was wearing black to show my dissent on Roe v. Wade. πŸ–€ As we were leaving our local 4th of July parade, the world got darker. We heard about another parade in another Chicago suburb. Highland Park - just an hour north. The scene of yet another mass shooting. πŸ’”

For so many reasons, this one hits too close to home. What if it had been us? What if it had been Wheaton? Could we protect our kids? Could their little legs run fast enough? Would our family get separated in the chaos? Would we all make it out unhurt? Why? WHY? Why does every parent have to consider these possibilities? And WHY do we keep letting this happen?

On the 4th of July, we had to talk to our 9-year-old, 8-year-old and 6-year-old about mass shootings. Because they happen so often now, we need the kids to know. We don’t want them to be perpetually afraid β€” but we need them to be prepared. 

Now when I look at this picture, I hear their questions in my head. Did people die? In real life? Kids like me? I hear Easton, the 9-year-old, matter-of-factly explaining to his brothers how to hide on a toilet seat in a bathroom stall so you can’t be seen. I hear the steel edge in my own voice when I tell them that if it ever happens at their school, to stay quiet and do EXACTLY what their teachers say.

β€œCould this happen at our school?”

β€œCould this happen tomorrow at summer camp?”

β€œMommy … this could happen anywhere, couldn’t it?”

I can’t lie to them. I won’t. The stakes are too high. And yet, it’s hard to get out the words to confirm their nightmares β€” to confirm every parent’s own nightmare.

It could. And we need to fight until it can’t.

Follow my new account @kate.writes.real.life for more like this ❀️‍πŸ”₯

#momsdemandaction #marchforourlives #enoughisenough #protectkidsnotguns #guncontrolnow #4thofjuly #highlandpark #lgbtq #lgbtqfamily #blendedfamily #twomoms
The past year has been filled with so many hard mo The past year has been filled with so many hard moments. Moments that challenged me. Moments that almost broke me.

But then there are the moments when it all comes together and I know exactly why I fought like hell to be here. Moments like these, when my heart could split open with the happiness I’ve found. No, scratch that β€” with the happiness π™¬π™šβ€™π™«π™š π™˜π™§π™šπ™–π™©π™šπ™™.

Today and every day, I’m thankful to be right here. ❀️ Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours 🍁 

πŸ“Έ: the oh-so-patient @hbphotography630 

#modernfamily #blendedfamily #buildalifeyoulove #lgbtqfamily #twomoms #familyphotos #familygoals #thanksgiving #lifeafterdivorce
Partners β€οΈπŸ”ŽπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€ Partners β€οΈπŸ”ŽπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ•΅πŸ»β€β™€οΈ
Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys Questionable parenting decision: Taking three boys ages 5-8 to @medievaltimes_chicago for Mother’s Day. You’d think two moms would know how to do β€˜our day’ better. πŸ˜‚ There was some whining, some tears, some beer, and some light-up weapons ... but somehow a lot of fun too. 

Life these days is far from Insta-perfect but it’s mine ❀️
β€œπ™Έ πš‘πšŠπšπšŽ πšŠπšŒπšŒπš’πšπšŽπš—πšπšœ πšŽπš‘πšŒπšŽπš™πš πš πš‘πšŽπš— 𝚠𝚎 πš πšŽπš—πš πšπš›πš˜πš– πšπš›πš’πšŽπš—πšπšœ 𝚝𝚘 πšπš‘πš’πšœ...” 
- πšπšŠπš’πš•πš˜πš› πšœπš πš’πšπš

Sometimes a moment changes everything. A kiss. A sunset. A friendship that’s suddenly more. 

a #loveislove story is on the blog tonight πŸ–€

#thisisus #lovewins #lovestory #samesexrelationship #lgbtq🌈
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